How many times have we been embarrassed to show up because we didn't get what we wanted? How many times have we put a half-effort forward to pretend not to care about the outcome because we didn't have the control we wanted? How many times did we take the air out of the room in a grown-up tantrum instead of leading the room by giving of ourselves with no expectation in return? How many times did we choose our own pity party instead of loving those around us?